A struggle for language: Patterns of self‐disclosure in Lesbian couples

Abstract

This qualitative study explores the complexity of language choices made by lesbian couples concerning self‐disclosure. Transcripts of two focus groups were analyzed using the constant comparative method. A distinction is drawn between verbal and behavioral language. Language concerning lesbian identity is assessed for its affirming or negating properties. The concepts of parallel process of coming out, coming out as an ongoing process, and the paradox of self‐preservation are also discussed. The findings challenge the association of verbal self‐disclosure as a hallmark of mental health for lesbians.

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Tara Healy, M.S.W., is in private practice in Danvers, Massachusetts and is a supervisor of mental health services at the Bay Area Visiting Nurse Association in Beverly, Massachusetts. She is also a doctoral student and instructor at the Simmons College School of Social Work.

I would like to thank Carol Swenson, D.S.W., for her helpful comments on earlier drafts of this manuscript.