Parenting Expectations: Younger and Older First-Time Parents

Abstract

The transition to parenthood is a time of great interest to scholars. Because some parents prosper and others falter after the birth of their first child, understanding factors that influence this transition is of critical importance; one reason is the similarity (or lack thereof) between parents' prebirth parenting expectations. The present study examined (1) similarity between and typologies of first-time parents' parenting role expectations for one another, (2) whether older and younger parents differed in their degree of similarity, and (3) whether similarity related to changes in couple relationship quality. Analyses revealed that first-time parents generally were not similar in their views of what either mothers or fathers should be doing as parents. Where differences existed, both fathers and mothers tended to rate their own fulfillment of “nontraditional” roles more highly than did their partners. Younger and older first-time parents did not differ in their degree of (dis)similarity; regardless of age, first-time parents generally demonstrated unmatched parenting role expectations. Finally, differences in expectations at birth were not associated with parents' ratings of changes in relationship quality 6 months later. In much the same way as marriage education programs help premarital couples communicate about potential areas of disagreement, the present findings emphasize the need for similar prenatal programs for first-time parents.

KEYWORDS:

• coparenting
• expectations
• parenthood/parenting
• transitions

Notes

*Values are means, with standard deviation in parentheses. All other values are numbers of cases and percents.

†For changes in relationship quality, n = 29 (due to couple attrition by the 6-month survey).

‡Totals do not sum to 100% due to ability to mark multiple response categories.

—, ICC could not be calculated due to lack of response variance.

†p < .10, *p < .05, **p < .01.

Values in bold type are where one parent was more likely to assign a higher rating.

†p < .10, *p < .05.