Abstract
Issues related to gender have enormous impact on every facet of human existence and relationship. Psychotherapy could be defined as the co-enquiry into the experience of human existence and relationship, and as such is massively affected by gender difference and the allied and inseparable issue of sexuality. My personal experience has been that gender issues have been central in every aspect of psychotherapy through being a client, in training and in working as a therapist. At times, however, this was unclear and confusing. The territory often went unexplored and unspoken because of taboos and sensitivities. Issues of gender have felt unworkable because they constellate a filter through which all experience passes in a deeply held unconscious and numinous manner, almost too close to bring into focus. Gender is like a blackboard onto which our experience is scored.