Interactive grief and coping in the marital dyad

Abstract

Experiencing the death of one's child has been described as one of the most traumatic events that can occur in adult life. This qualitative study examined the grief resolution process of 27 marital couples after the fetal or infant death of their child. Interactive dynamics in the couples' relationship and ways in which they coped with the effects of the death on themselves individually and as a part of a dyadic system were of central importance. The central focus of this article is on the dyadic context, in which marital partners attempt to meet relational responsibilities as well as their own needs. The pressures of being in a system in which both partners are coping with strong and frequently unfamiliar thoughts and emotions are described. Those factors that lead to conflict and stress during this time are discussed as well as other factors that minimize conflict and reduce stress. Finally, implications of these findings for those working with bereaved parents are presented.