Lessons from a recent adoption study to identify some of the service needs of, and issues for, donor offspring wanting to know about their donors

Abstract

This paper draws on some of the major findings of a recent large-scale study of over 400 adult adopted people, who either searched for origins information or were sought out by birth relatives, to identify the potential profile of donor offspring seeking origins information. It is predicted that more women than men will search, that people who search will be in their twenties or older, and that the age at which searching begins may be delayed by the effects of the social stigma attached to gamete donation and by the greater likelihood of accidental disclosure in adulthood resulting from the higher incidence of secrecy about donor assisted conception. Two of the single triggers for adopted people to begin searching (as opposed to multiple triggers) — becoming a parent and the death of adoptive parents — may also be among the triggers for donor offspring to begin searching. The search may be complicated further when undertaken after accidental disclosure. Finally, it is argued that some donor offspring will experience a normative urge for identity completion and seeking relationships similar to that experienced by adopted people. This urge may stem from the fact that some donor offspring attach an identity to their donor that extends beyond needing factual details about their physical characteristics (though not necessarily a desire to establish a relationship). Some donor offspring are likely to encounter a desire for face-to-face contact, regardless of whether a face-to-face meeting was the original intention. The need for services to help donor offspring, donors, family members and others affected by the situation is identified.