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Sex Education
Sexuality, Society and Learning
Volume 21, 2021 - Issue 3
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‘Everyone knows someone in an unhealthy relationship’: young people’s talk about intimate heterosexual relationships in England

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Pages 304-318 | Received 27 Nov 2019, Accepted 17 Jul 2020, Published online: 18 Aug 2020
 

ABSTRACT

Research suggests that intimate relationship violence and coercive control are prevalent in young people’s relationships. Furthermore, young people often fail to recognise such behaviour as abuse. While such findings indicate the normalisation of controlling and coercive behaviours amongst young people, there is little focus on how these behaviours are normalised. This paper presents findings from a study exploring young people’s experiences and expectations of intimate relationships. Focus groups were conducted with young people (aged 13 to 18 years) in schools in the West Midlands, England. Young people talked of navigating precarious and competitive heterosexual relationships. Their expectations and negotiations of these relationships often upheld and reinforced gender double standards around dating practices. Young people’s discussion also highlighted how they came to accept and rationalise controlling and coercive behaviours as ‘love’, ‘care’ and ‘protection’, legitimising these practices as reasonable. Heteronormativity remains a dominant discourse shaping young people’s experiences and expectations of relationships with coercion and control being defining features of this discourse. Supporting young people to critically examine constructs of heterosexuality and gender norms should be a key component of England’s forthcoming statutory Relationship and Sex Education.

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No potential conflict of interest was reported by the authors.

Notes

1. See the Crown Prosecution Service’s legal guidance, ‘Controlling or Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Family Relationships’: https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/controlling-or-coercive-behaviour-intimate-or-family-relationship.

2. The interview guide is available on reasonable request to the corresponding author.

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