Abstract
Lay attitudes towards polyamorous individuals – conceptualised here as those who experience romantic love for more than one person simultaneously – were explored experimentally. Canadian undergraduates (N = 262) read about an individual involved in a long-term, exclusive romantic relationship who met someone and wanted to be sexual with that person. The individual (1) had fallen in love with this new-found interest while remaining in love with his/her primary partner (polyamory); (2) was no longer in love with the primary partner (love affair); or (3) simply had sexual feelings for the new-found partner (sexual fling). Participants’ overall evaluations of the individual seeking a sexual fling were the least negative following perspective-taking instructions; otherwise, global evaluations of the three protagonists did not differ. Relative to (especially) those seeking a love affair, polyamorous individuals were seen as more loving, warm, sensitive and needy. Relative to (especially) those seeking a sexual fling, they were seen as confused, as more likely fooling themselves, and as more plausibly bisexual or homosexual. Thus, lay perceivers’ impressions of a polyamorous individual seemed mixed, apparently reflecting their struggle to make sense of the experience of being in love with more than one person at the same time.
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The author thanks Keri Raif and Kristina Schrage for data collection assistance, and to Georgina Garcia Rodriguez for her comments on materials.
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Christopher T. Burris
Christopher T. Burris is currently an Associate Professor of Psychology at St. Jerome’s University, in the University of Waterloo, Ontario, Canada. Trained as a social psychologist, his breadth of publications includes topics such as religious motivation, good and evil, love and hate and sexual fantasy. He also co-teaches a course called Dark Side of Sexuality.