Connection and Individuation as Separate and Independent Processes

Abstract

Theoretical models of connection and individuation processes are presented and explored. The connection process involves attachment and affection. Dependency is met with nurture, resulting in a warm, accepting family climate that encourage self esteem and ability to trust. The individuation process involves validation and respect. Expression of feelings and thoughts is met with acknowledgement, resulting in a family with clear interpersonal boundaries that encourage self differentiation and personal autonomy for family members, particularly the children. The goal of this work is explore the clinical value of conceptualizing connection and individuation as separate and independent processes. Four families representing combinations of high or low values on measures of connection and individuation were evaluated qualitatively by a multi-cultural team using a variety of theories and measures. Family patterns are described and possible clinical interventions are discussed.

Key Words:

• Individuation
• connection
• family paradigms