SUMMARY
In contrast to the monogamous model for sexual relationships (including those of lesbians) in western society, friendships are permitted to be polyamorous. However, friendships do not receive the level of salience and priority that sexual relationships do. This article focuses on three issues that keep lesbians from prioritizing friendships: (1) the culture of sex in the U.S. and western nations; (2) the way we define “sex”; and (3) the way we define friendships.