SUMMARY
Attaching oneself to a single lifelong partner in a sexually and emotionally exclusive, all-fulfilling relationship is the romantic goal for many women in our culture. However, monogamous relationships of this sort provide no guarantee for either permanence or bliss. As many women are beginning to explore polyamorous relating, fears arise about loss of love if a primary partner wishes to love others. When lesbians and bisexual women open their relationships, fears that a bisexual women will abandon her lesbian lover for a man may evoke old fears of a competition that cannot be won.