A Clinician’s Guide to the Principles of Collaborative Problem Solving in Relationship Enhancement Therapy

Abstract

This article presents a systematic approach to collaborative problem solving from the perspective of Relationship Enhancement (RE) Therapy in order to provide clinicians working out of any relationship therapy model a practical guide for helping couples and families successfully work through challenging relationship issues. An overview of RE Therapy is presented in addition to a detailed description of the six principles of collaborative problem solving and the therapist’s role in guiding a collaborative problem-solving process. The key factor that interferes with collaborative problem solving in couple and family relationships also is addressed. Finally, following the principles of collaborative problem solving described, a case illustration of a challenging life decision with far-reaching implications for a couple is offered that includes an analysis of (a) three hypothetical scenarios with an unfavorable outcome, (b) two hypothetical scenarios with a favorable outcome and (c) the actual real-life decision the couple made. In each case, the analysis includes a detailed application of the relevant principles of collaborative problem solving in order to make as concrete as possible how the application of those principles, or the failure to apply them, would impact the outcome in a positive or negative way.

Keywords:

• Empathy
• key obstacle to collaborative problem solving
• spirit of mutual accommodation
• “win-win” solutions
• therapist’s role