My Father, Myself

Abstract

This essay presents material from the second analysis of an offspring of two Holocaust survivors, each of whom lost a child during the war. The first analysis (Kogan ) focused primarily on the patient’s relationship with her mother. This second analysis revolves around the elaboration of the complex and painful father–daughter relationship, centering on the events surrounding the death of the patient’s father. The discussion includes an exploration of the father’s deferred action on account of his Holocaust trauma, which he passed on to the next generation; the break in the idealized paternal representation; and the daughter’s identification with her father’s disavowed aggressive aspects. It also examines some of the unique transference and countertransference problems that arose, mainly because patient and analyst belonged to the same traumatized large group.

• Fathers
• Holocaust
• replacement children
• dead siblings
• narcissism
• transgenerational transmission of trauma
• guilt
• identification with the aggressor
• enactment
• countertransference