Loss in the family – A reflection on how schools can support their students

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Table 1. Statements to avoid and suggested alternatives

Avoid saying	Alternative
‘I know how you are feeling.’	‘I do not think anyone can understand how you are truly feeling, but I will try to.’
‘I have also experienced losing someone, so I know exactly how you are feeling.’	‘I’ve also lost someone. It was some time ago, so it doesn’t feel as painful today. However, maybe I can understand some of what you are going through.’
‘It could have been a lot worse.’
‘You should not be thinking about it in that way.’	‘It is understandable that you think like that, but it is important to also think about it in other ways.’
‘Call me if there is anything I can do.’	‘I will call you to see how things are going.’
‘Are you okay?’	‘You might feel that I ask you how things are going too often. If you think it is a bit too much, let me know.’