Reflections on Aging, Psychotherapy, and Spiritual Practice

Abstract

This article, written by a therapist in midlife, considers the intersection of aging, psychotherapy, and spiritual practice. It includes professional and personal reflections as well as clinical examples explored through the complementary lenses of intersubjectivity theory, which describes the co-creation of experience by therapist and patient, and Zen Buddhsim, which explores the illusory nature of some of our most basic assumptions. The author discusses the nuances of listening to and attempting to understand others, especially in the transference and countertransference. The author reflects on her personal experience of the processes of aging and maturing, both emotionally and physically, and on ways in which life has changed for her, over time, as a result of aging, meditation, and psychotherapy practice. Concepts explored include co-creation of relationship, emptiness and impermanence, and existential anxiety.

KEYWORDS:

• aging
• intersubjective psychotherapy
• meditation
• psychotherapy and Buddhism
• spiritual practice
• women