The quick shift: Orthodox Jewish women’s early marital sexual experience

Abstract

Orthodox Jewish women experience a major shift in permitted and expected sexual activity when they marry. For many of these women, their first experience of a sexual relationship with a male partner takes place within marriage. Moreover, members of the Orthodox Jewish community observe rituals, laws, and practices specifically related to sexual relations within marriage. This mixed methods study explored the early marital sexual experiences of self-identified married Orthodox Jewish women through an anonymous online survey and guided written narrative. Utilizing a feminist lens and building on research around sexual scripts, findings include themes of experiencing early marital sexual activity as a “quick shift” and experiencing a change in sense of self and sexual agency. Other themes include navigating changes in sense of modesty, disappointment, empowerment and entitlement; and reflections on the complexity of this transition. Findings have the potential to inform clinical practice, education, and program development to address Orthodox Jewish women’s needs, while contributing to the broader conversation regarding female sexuality, particularly within this cultural context.

Keywords:

• Sexuality
• Judaism
• Orthodox Judaism
• gender studies

Acknowledgments

Sincere thanks to Dr. Deborah Tolman and Dr. David Ribner whose ongoing support and scholarly critique were invaluable in developing and pursuing this research. And gratitude for the encouragement and feedback of Dr. Jama Shelton.

Disclosure statement

No potential competing interest was reported by the author.