ABSTRACT
Extant literature often assumes that gratitude is intrinsically positive therefore ought to be maximized. Virtue theory and social alignment theory, however, suggest gratitude is adaptive only in specific relational contexts. Drawing from find-remind-bind theory’s notion that gratitude functions to promote interactions with supportive partners in particular, we test whether it is not just the overall level of gratitude and support that bear upon personal (psychological well-being, physical health) and relational (commitment, sexual satisfaction, aggression) outcomes, but also congruence in levels of gratitude for one’s partner relative to the support they provide. Drawing from a cross-sectional survey of 874 mixed-sex married dyads (N = 1,748) in the United States, we demonstrate that gratitude for a partner in excess of the support that partner provides is associated with maladaptive personal and relational outcomes. Implications and future directions are discussed.
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Data that support the findings of this study, along with the analytic code, are available at: https://osf.io/y6ufz/.
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The data described in this article are openly available in the Open Science Framework at https://doi.org/10.17605/OSF.IO/Y6UFZ.
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Notes
1. We recognize that discretizing results in information loss, and therefore may seem objectionable. We report the results of the study using continuous moderation analyses between gratitude and support on outcomes in online supplemental materials. However, we again note that moderation analyses are not appropriate for testing the hypothesis that tuning gratitude to the level of support in a relationship implicates on outcomes.
2. Husband and wife reports of length of time married did not always match. Statistics reported here reflect the average of husband and wife responses.
3. Although the terms Excessive Gratitude and Deficient Gratitude are value-laden, we opted to use them because they succinctly and intuitively communicate the level of gratitude to support represented in each group.