Abstract
In the current study, we used a multiple case study method to analyze the dialectic of autonomy-connection in terminated romantic relationships. Eight heterosexual couples discussed their perceptions and management of “I” and “We” during their relationship. Later, they gave individual accounts of their subsequent breakups. We transcribed and analyzed the couple and individual interviews, comparing couples' management of autonomy-connection. Analysis showed two general patterns before relational termination: antagonistic struggles and non-antagonistic struggles. We further identified couples' praxis strategies, or responses to this contradiction. The analysis suggests that terminating romantic relationships have narrowly constrained responses to the inherent tension between autonomy and connection.