Putting down roots: the significance of technical adaptations in the therapeutic process with fostered and adopted children^‡

^‡A version of this paper was first presented at the ACP conference 2016.

Abstract

Severely neglected and traumatised children have also suffered from a lack of the parental nurturing which is needed for ordinary emotional development to take place. Often their past experiences make them unable to utilise the nurturing that foster and adoptive families try to give them and they are delayed or stuck in their development. In therapy, when the early small signs of new emotional development start to emerge, they may be heralded by technical challenges to the therapist. Two examples are given in this paper, which are discussed in the context of Stern et al.’s ideas about moments of meeting, Winnicott’s concepts about transitional phenomena and playing, and Hurry and her colleagues’ thoughts about the therapist as a developmental object. It is argued that it is important for the therapist to be alert to the possible significance of these technical adaptations in terms of the child’s capacity for new emotional development. These often indicate that a watershed in the treatment has been reached and if positively responded to, that the patient is in the process of ‘putting down roots’ in the ground of the therapeutic relationship and starting to grow across a spectrum of developmental pathways.

Keywords:

• developmental therapy
• kindness
• playing
• moments of meeting
• therapeutic transitional objects
• technique and practice

Acknowledgements

I am grateful to Ann Horne and Tammy Fransman for their insightful and helpful comments on this paper.

Notes

^‡ A version of this paper was first presented at the ACP conference 2016.