“Do Me Please, She Won't”: An Examination of Personal Ads Posted by Married Men Seeking Sex from Other Men

Abstract

Advances in technology have created new ways for individuals to find partners through personal ads seeking casual sexual encounters. This article examines self-identified married men who are seeking sexual encounters through placement of a men seeking men personal ad found on a free non-sexual large mainstream classified website. Three thousand advertisements were analyzed to reveal patterns among advertisements including items such as sexual act desired, sexual roles desired, race, and age. The results reveal that married men are seeking out different types of sexual encounters than men who do not identify themselves as married, desiring encounters more often during lunch, seeking out drug and disease free partners, desiring safe sex, and being more likely to desire a top or versatile sex role.

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Notes on contributors

Wendi E. Goodlin-Fahncke

WENDI E. GOODLIN-FAHNCKE is an Assistant Professor of Criminal Justice at The University of Toledo. She received her Ph.D. in Sociology with a concentration in Criminology from Bowling Green State University. Her current research interests include the sexual exploitation of women, intimate partner violence, family violence, sexually deviant behavior, inmate health and well-being, and inmate gang participation. Wendi has published articles in journals such as The Journal of Family Violence, The Journal of Criminal Justice, and Deviant Behavior.

Kelly Ann Cheeseman Dial

KELLY ANN CHEESEMAN DIAL is an Associate Professor of Criminal Justice at Messiah College. She received her Ph.D. in Criminal Justice from Sam Houston State University. Her current research interests include female offenders, prison deviance, correctional officer stress and job satisfaction, institutional corrections, the death penalty, ethics, and sexually deviant behavior. Kelly has published articles in journals such asThe Journal of Criminal Justice, Journal of Criminal Justice Education, American Journal of Criminal Justice, and Deviant Behavior. She has recently published a book titled Stress and the Correctional Officer and is also a co-author on a book about the death penalty.