The child's sense of existence and the fatal attraction of identification

Abstract

This paper gives special emphasis to the widening and modification of the sense of existence in relation to the unconscious processes of identification. In our ‘post‐modern’ society there are some parents who, while taking care of their children, use subtle projective identification against them, so as to produce in them a sort of pathological introjective identification, which denies their Self. Ferenczi's thought, which deals with the sense of ‘not‐existing’ in some children, helps us to go into depth in understanding their difficulties and pathologies.

Keywords:

• pathological identification
• mentally colonized child
• unwelcome child
• so‐called good parents
• tenderness