The Three Most Important Criteria in Diagnosing Sexual Addictions: Obsession, Obsession, and Obsession

Abstract

This article attempts to explain three basic concepts related to diagnosing and treating sexual addiction. First, it explains why current models of hypersexuality are limited because of their focus on behavior and their failure to explain concepts related to healthy sexuality. Second, an original theory on sexual desire is presented which explains normative cognitive processes related to sexual desire as well as dysfunctional cognitive processes. Third, the cognitive processes of persons with hypersexuality are explored in order to explain how attachment objects are closely related to objects of desire - fantasies are metaphoric surrogates for comfortable interpersonal relationships. The argument that persons with hypersexuality chronically turn to virtual reality, that is, fantasy, for what they find elusive in the real world is supported. The yearning to have comfort in one's relationships and the yearning component of sexual desire are able to explain the nature of obsessions. Failure to understand the part of "yearning" as it relates to sexual desire precludes a comprehensive explanation of hypersexuality, and therefore, fails to notice an important variable for diagnosis, research, and intervention.