SUMMARY
This article introduces the reader to an unusual family of choice: a 10-year-old Internet listserv for a “family” of lesbian nuns. The purpose of this listserv, and reasons for belonging to it, are described, including as context the unique psychosocial situation of lesbian nuns. The author includes such “family dynamics” as personality differences, the presence of a famous family member, inclusion/exclusion, stability/change, and dealing with differences. Issues of privacy, danger from outside the “family,” and being stigmatized are acknowledged. The author comments on the unique qualities of a “cyber-family” and compares the listserv with other kinds of families.
Acknowledgments
Mary Kay Hunyady, RSCJ, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist in private practice, and also does in-service work with other religious who are in leadership in their congregations. Mary Kay is interested in the intersection of psychology, social justice, and spirituality/spiritual practice. Her background includes political and community organizing, and teaching religion and theology in high schools. She is a member of the San Francisco Psychotherapy Research Group. Mary Kay has been a Roman Catholic nun (a Religious of the Sacred Heart) for 30 years.