REFLEXIVE SELF-TALK AND SITUATED FREEDOM IN THE CONTEXT OF SOCIABILITY

ABSTRACT

This paper analyses narratives in drinking and pub diaries written by young Finns aged 23–35. Drinking occasions in Finland are highly sociable gatherings in which one is oriented towards intensive interaction with one's friends. Thus, in the diaries the writers also reflect upon their expectations, descriptions and evaluations of these gatherings and the sociability they offer. In the analysis we focus on how during these occasions the writers adapt themselves to the perceived expectations of others, integrate these expectations with their own aspirations, or are sometimes compelled to change their aspirations. On this basis, we also pay attention to how this work of reflexive orientation functions to strengthen the expected course of one's own life, or as implying fateful moments, that is, transitions or turning points in the life course. In the analysis we apply G.H. Mead's concepts of ‘I’ and ‘me’. The paper identifies three different kinds of ‘I–me dialogues’. First, loosening oneself momentarily from reflexivity to the collective body of friends; second, binding oneself reflexively to the common will of the group; and third, loosening oneself from group commitments, that is moving towards individual reflexivity and desires. Of these dialogues, the last mentioned contributes most often to fateful activity in which the writers’ life course is at stake. By contrast, the other two more collectively oriented self-talks rather refer to positive peak experiences that give emotional momentum to continue with one's existing life plans.

Keywords:

• reflexivity
• sociability
• drinking habits
• young adults
• diaries

Acknowledgements

The text is part of the project ‘Changes in the cultural position of drinking’ (project no. 118426), funded by the Academy of Finland, Research Programme on Substance Use and Addictions 2007–2010.