Shame and domestic violence: treatment perspectives for perpetrators from self psychology and affect theory*

Abstract

Perpetrators of domestic violence have traditionally been seen as an undeserving client group when considered in relation to the victims of their violence. Apart from anger management and psycho-educational groups for male perpetrators, very few other treatment options have been suggested. In treating couples, Goldner (1998) has advocated holding men accountable for their violence while at the same time utilizing concepts from attachment theory to provide treatment for them. This paper draws mainly upon self psychology and the affect theory literature to better understand the underlying dynamics of violent behaviour in intimate relationships, with particular reference to the role of shame as a precursor of violence. Qualitative data linking shame and violence were drawn from interviews with men attending a group for their violent behaviour. I argue that treatment may focus at the level of shame and its connection to violence, and that this may require working with the individual perpetrator, rather than the couple, in order to adequately address the issue of violence. I suggest some general guidelines for working with violent men that incorporate aspects of shame.

Keywords:

• affect theory
• domestic violence
• perpetrators
• shame
• self psychology

Acknowledgements

This research was funded by an Australian Research Council Collaborative Grant. The author would like to thank Dr Julie Fitness and reviewers for their helpful comments of earlier drafts of this paper.

Notes

*An earlier version of this paper was presented at the first Pan Pacific Family Therapy Conference, Melbourne, September, 2001.

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JAC Brown

*An earlier version of this paper was presented at the first Pan Pacific Family Therapy Conference, Melbourne, September, 2001.