Compassionate authenticity: a treatment model for working with women with low libido

Abstract

Women often report taking care of others at the expense of their own well-being in the name of being compassionate. As a result, they may experience a drop in vital energy, including a drop in sensual energy and libido, and a rise in resentment towards their sexual partners, ultimately leading to a lack of satisfying sexual relationship for both partners. A theoretical framework is proposed based on the author's original idea of compassionate authenticity. According to this theory, the most compassionate act a partner can give is one's own authentic presence in the relationship, as this promotes genuine intimacy and sensual flow. This paper guides the reader in the application of the compassionate authenticity treatment model to work with clients with low libido. The model involves the intentional application of an eclectic approach that addresses three critical treatment goals: (1) building acceptance of and curiosity about one's sensuality; (2) differentiating from one's sexual partner/s; and (3) redefining sexual and emotional caretaking.

Keywords:

• female sexual arousal disorder
• sexual aversion
• individual therapy
• couples therapy

Acknowledgements

I would like to thank my colleagues and friends who provided both encouragement and editorial suggestions for this article, including Helen Whybrow, Alice Pollvogt, Sarah Spink, Carmen Walker, Emily Miller, Tasha Lansbury, Sara Mason, and Ciara Byrne. I would also like to acknowledge the mentorship and guidance provided by Gina Ogden, which has helped me raise up my own authentic voice.

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Lindsay B. Jernigan

Lindsay B. Jernigan, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Vermont where she offers individual and couples therapy, group workshops, and professional supervision. Her practice is in an integrated health care center where she co-founded Eastern View Mental Health: A Center for Authentic Development. Her practice information can be found on the web at www.EasternViewVT.com.