The effects of infidelity on the sexual relationship

Abstract

The effects of infidelity on the sexual relationship of the couple are often a neglected part of affair recovery. Therapists may minimize the need to do a thorough assessment of the sexual relationship, or perhaps feel at a loss about how to intervene. This article presents four common clinical presentations of the possible effects of an affair on the sexual relationship of a couple: (1) a marked decrease in sexual activity/complete abstinence, (2) a marked increase in frequency, (3) the development of sexual dysfunction, or (4) shifts in sexual behavior and/or expression. Case studies highlight the ways in which an affair can have an immediate and/or ongoing impact on the sexual relationship of the couple. Assessment and brief intervention suggestions are included that clinicians can incorporate into their existing affair recovery protocols.

LAY SUMMARY

Most couple therapists focus on repairing the emotional relationship in the wake of an affair. However, the impact of the affair on the sexual relationship is often ignored. This article highlights four specific ways the sexual relationship can be affected post-affair and gives concrete advice about assessment and intervention.

Keywords:

• Infidelity
• affair recovery
• sex therapy
• marital therapy

Disclosure statement

No potential conflict of interest was reported by the author(s).