In praise of voluntary solitude: the “fertile void” and its role in communication and relationships

ABSTRACT

This essay reviews the extant literature on solitude – and its related concepts – and argues that, time alone, when done with volition, can be seen as an intentional act that may affect a range of interpersonal and relational processes, usually in ways that are seen as positive. It is, however, often linked in the larger literature with variables identified as problematic, such as loneliness, and seen injurious to relationships. I suggest a more benign view of time in solitude and discuss its potential importance to understanding and predicting an array of communicative processes, such as greater ability to be present and engaged in dialogue, to listen well, and to experience and express intimacy and affection. Overall, the essay looks at the paradoxical – but compelling – nature of separation on connection and the way that this conceptualization aligns with theories in our field, with the hope of presenting it as a way to enhance well-being and interpersonal communicative and relational quality.

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