Mind and mourning: The primacy of “we” in complicated grief

References

• Adam, K. S., Sheldon-Keller, A. E., & West, M. (1995). Attachment organization and vulnerability to loss, separation, and abuse in disturbed adolescents. In S. Goldberg, R. Muir, & J. Keer (Eds.), Attachment theory: Social, developmental, and clinical perspectives (pp. 309–341). Hillsdale, NJ: Analytic Press.
   Google Scholar
• Boelen, P. A. (2009). The centrality of a loss and its role in emotional problems among bereaved people. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 47, 616–622. doi:10.1016/j.brat.2009.03.009
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Boelen, P. A., & Van Den Hout, M. A. (2010). Inclusion of other in the self and breakup-related grief flowing relationship dissolution. Journal of Loss and Trauma, 15, 534–547. doi:10.1080/15325024.2010.519274
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Boelen, P. A., van den Hout, M. C., & van den Bout, M. (2006). A cognitive-behavioral conceptualization of complicated grief. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 13, 109–128. doi:10.1111/j.1468-2850.2006.00013.x
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Boerner, K., & Heckhausen, J. (2003). To have and have not: Adaptive bereavement by transforming mental ties to the deceased. Death Studies, 27, 199–226. doi:10.1080/07481180302888
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Bowlby, J. (1980). Attachment and loss: Vol. 3. Loss: Sadness and depression. New York, NY: Basic Books.
   Google Scholar
• Brass, M., & Heyes, C. (2005). Imitations: Is cognitive neuroscience solving the correspondence problem? Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 9, 489–495. doi:10.1016/j.tics.2005.08.007
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Brink, I., Reddy, V., & Zahavi, D. (2017). The primacy of the “we”? In C. Durt, T. Fuchs, & C. Tewes (Eds.), Embodiment, enaction, and culture: Investigating the constitution of the shared world (pp. 131–147), Cambridge, MA: The MIT Press.
   Google Scholar
• Caminada, E. (2016). Husserl on groupings: Social ontology and the phenomenology of we-intentionality. In T. Szanto & D. Moran (Eds.), Phenomenology of sociality: Discovering the ‘we’ (pp. 281–295). New York, NY: Routledge.
   Google Scholar
• Colonnello, V., Chen, F. S., Panksepp, J., & Heinrichs, M. (2013). Oxytocin sharpens self-other perceptual boundary. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 38, 2996–3002. doi:10.1016/j.psyneuen.2013.08.010
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Conway, M. A. (2005). Memory and the self. Journal of Memory and Language, 53, 594–628. doi:10.1016/j.jml.2005.08.005
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Decety, J., & Sommerville, J. A. (2003). Shared representations between self and other: A social cognitive neuroscience view. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 7, 527–533. doi:0.1016/j.tics.2003.10.004
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• De Jaegher, H., Di Paolo, E., & Gallagher, S. (2010). Can social interaction constitute social cognition?. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 14, 441–447. doi:10.1016/j.tics.2010.06.009
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Field, N. P., Gao, B., & Paderna, L. (2005). Continuing bonds in bereavement: An attachment theory based perspective. Death Studies, 29, 277–299. doi:10.1080/07481180590923689
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Freud, S. (1917). Mourning and melancholia. In J. Strachey (Ed.), The standard edition of the complete psychological works of Sigmund Freud (Vol. 14, pp. 243–258). London: Hogarth Press.
   Google Scholar
• Gallagher, S. (2013). The socially extended mind. Cognitive Systems Research, 25–26, 4–12. doi:10.1016/j.cogsys.2013.03.008
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Gallese, V. (2017). Neoteny and social cognition: A neuroscientific perspective on embodiment. In C. Durt, T. Fuchs, & C. Tewes (Eds.), Embodiment, enaction, and culture: Investigating the constitution of the shared world (pp. 309–331), Cambridge, MA: The MIT Press.
   Google Scholar
• Gallotti, M., & Frith, C. D. (2013). Social cognition in the we-mode. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 17, 160–165. doi:10.1016/j.tics.2013.02.002
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Kalanithi, L. (2016). My marriage didn’t end when I became a widow. The New York Times. Retrieved from https://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/01/06/my-marriage-didnt-end-when-i-became-a-widow/
   Google Scholar
• Keysers, C., & Gazzola, V. (2007). Integrating simulation and theory of mind: From self to social cognition. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 11, 194–196. doi:10.1016/j.tics.2007.02.002
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Keysers, C., & Gazzola, V. (2014). Hebbian learning and predictive mirror neurons for actions, sensations, and emotions. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B, 369, 20130175. doi:10.1098/rstb.2013.0175
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Kihlstrom, J. F. (2012). Searching for the self in mind and brain. Social Cognition, 30, 367–379. doi:10.1521/soco.2012.30.4.367
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Klass, D., Silverman, P. R., & Nickman, S. L. (1996). Continuing bonds: New understandings of grief, Philadelphia, PA: Taylor & Francis.
   Google Scholar
• Krueger, J. (2013). Ontogenesis of the socially extended mind. Cognitive Systems Research, 25–26, 40–46. doi:10.1016/j.cogsys.2013.03.001
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Krueger, J. (2016). The affective ‘We’: Self-regulation and shared emotions. In T. Szanto & D. Moran (Eds.), Phenomenology of sociality, discovering the ‘we’ (pp. 263–277). New York: Routledge.
   Google Scholar
• Lieberman, M. D. (2007). Social cognitive neuroscience: A review of core processes. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 259–289. doi:10.1146/annurev.psych.58.110405.085654
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Maccallum, F., & Bryant, R. A. (2008). Self-defining memories in complicated grief. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 46, 1311–1315. doi:10.1016/j.brat.2008.09.003
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Maccallum, F., & Bryant, R. A. (2013). A cognitive attachment model of prolonged grief: Integrating attachments, memory, and identity. Clinical Psychology Review, 33, 713–727. doi:10.1016/j.cpr.2013.05.001
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Mancini, A. D., & Bonanno, G. A. (2012). The persistence of attachment: Complicated grief, threat, and reaction times to the deceased’s name. Journal of Affective Disorders, 139, 256–263. doi:10.1016/j.jad.2012.01.032.
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Neimeyer, R. A. (2001). The language of loss. In R. A. Neimeyer (Ed.), Meaning reconstruction and the experience of loss (pp. 261–292). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.
   Google Scholar
• Neimeyer, R. A. (2006). Complicated grief and the reconstruction of meaning: Conceptual and empirical contributions to a cognitive-constructivist model. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 13, 141–145. doi:10.1111/j.1468-2850.2006.00016.x
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Neimeyer, R. A. (2016). Helping clients find meaning in grief and loss. In M. Cooper, & W. Dryden (Eds.) The handbook of pluralistic counseling and psychotherapy (pp. 211–222). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.
   Google Scholar
• Neimeyer, R. A., Baldwin, S. A., & Gillies, J. (2006). Continuing bonds and reconstructing meaning: Mitigating complications in bereavement. Death Studies, 30, 715–738. doi:10.1080/07481180600848322
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• O'Connor, M.-F., & Sussman, T. J. (2014). Developing the yearning in situations of loss scale: Convergent and discriminant validity for bereavement, romantic breakup, and homesickness. Death Studies, 38, 450–458. doi:10.1080/07481187.2013.782928
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• O'Connor, M.-F., Wellisch, D. K., Stanton, A. L., Eisenberger, N. I., Irwin, M. R., & Lieberman, M. D. (2008). Craving love? Enduring grief activates brain’s reward center. Neuroimage, 42, 969–972. doi:10.1016/j.neuroimage.2008.04.256
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• O’Connor, M. F., Wellisch, D. K., Stanton, A. L., Olmstead, R., & Irwin, M. R. (2012). Diurnal cortisol in complicated and non-complicated grief: Slope differences across the day. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 37, 725–728. doi:10.1016/j.psyneuen.2011.08.009
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Parkes, C. M. (1987). Bereavement: Studies of grief in adult life. Madison, CT: International Universities Press.
   Google Scholar
• Prigerson, H. G., Horowitz, M. J., Jacobs, S. C., Parkes, C. M., Aslan, M., Goodkin, K., … Maciejewski, P. K. (2009). Prolonged grief disorder: Psychometric validation of criteria proposed for DSM-V and ICD-11 [published correction appears in PLoS Med. 2013; 10]. PLoS Medicine, 6, e1000121. doi:10.1371/journal.pmed.1000121
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Rizzolatti, G., & Sinigaglia, C. (2010). The functional role of the parieto-frontal mirror circuit: Interpretations and misinterpretations. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 11, 264–274. doi:10.1038/nrn2805
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Root, B. L., & Exline, J. J. (2014). The role of continuing bonds in coping with grief: Overview and future directions. Death Studies, 38, 1–8. doi:10.1080/07481187.2012.712608
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Scheler, M. (1954/2017). The nature of sympathy. New York, NY: Routledge.
   Google Scholar
• Schutz, A. (1967). The phenomenology of the social world. Evanston, IL: Northwestern University Press.
   Google Scholar
• Sebanz, N., Knoblich, G., & Prinz, W. (2003). Representing others’ actions: just like one’s own? Cognition, 88, B11–B21. doi:10.1016/S 0010-0277(03)00043-X
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Semin, G. R., & Cacioppo, J. T. (2008). Grounding social cognition: Synchronization, entrainment, and coordination. In G. R. Semin & J. T. Cacioppo (Eds.), Embodied grounding: Social, cognitive, affective, and neuroscientific approaches (pp. 119–148). New York: Cambridge University Press.
   Google Scholar
• Shear, M. K., & Shair, H. (2005). Attachment, loss and complicated grief. Developmental Psychobiology, 47, 253–267. doi:10.1002/dev.20091
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Steinbeis, N. (2016). The role of self-other distinction in understanding others’ mental and emotional states: Neurocognitive mechanisms in children and adults. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 371, 20150074. doi:10.1098/rstb.2015.0074
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (2005). To continue or relinquish bonds. Death Studies, 29, 477–494. doi:10.1080/07481180590962659
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Stroebe, M., Schut, H., & Boerner, K. (2010). Continuing bonds in adaptation to bereavement: Toward theoretical integration. Clinical Psychology Review, 30, 259–268. doi:10.1016/j.cpr.2009.11.007
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Uddin, L. Q., Iacoboni, M., Lange, C., & Keenan, J. P. (2007). The self and social cognition: The role of cortical midline structures and mirror neurons. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 11, 153–157. doi:10.1016/j.tics.2007.01.001
   PubMed Web of Science ®Google Scholar
• Zahavi, D. (2015). You, me and we: The sharing of emotional experiences. Journal of Consciousness Studies, 22, 84–101. doi:10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199590681.003.0015
   Web of Science ®Google Scholar