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INTERVIEWS
- Lina (pseudonym). Mother of a gay son, Mamelodi, Pretoria, 21 February 2015. Mamana (pseudonym). Mother of a gay son, Mamelodi, Pretoria, 11 February 2015.
- Mantombi (pseudonym). Mother of a lesbian daughter, Mamelodi, Pretoria, 28 February 2015. Maria (pseudonym). Mother of a gay son, Mamelodi, Pretoria, 28 February 2015.
- Mpho (pseudonym). Mother of a bisexual daughter, Pretoria East suburb, Pretoria, 17 March 2015.
- Vuyiswa (pseudonym). Mother of a lesbian daughter, Katlehong, Natalspruit, 22 December 2014.